Wednesday, 21 June 2023
Sunday, 12 March 2023
'Coming out' in the world of music - or maybe not
This post is about Sarit Hadad, a famous Israeli female singer who has only recently come out as a lesbian in 2021. ๐ณ️๐ Most of her fans already thought she was gay and were wondering how long it would take for her to tell us something we all knew. When Sarit came out a couple of years ago some were thrilled others were annoyed. Pleased she had finally said it, less pleased she waited so long. Those in the latter group felt that by not coming out earlier she was somehow giving the impression that being gay was a negative thing to be and had overtones of shame.
I feel this is all rather harsh. Better late than never, they say. She has two young daughters Noya (2017) and Shira (2020) and has revealed who her partner is: Tamar Yahalomi.
So was Sarit strategically not saying because she was afraid it would hurt her career? Possibly. And is she wrong to think that? Possibly not! Now she's an established star of course no-one cares but if she was starting out, would she reach the same level of success or even get her career off the ground if she was 'out'? At only 44 she's still very young but has been on the scene for a long time. I can appreciate just what a difficult decision it is.
Just because you're gay you don't feel any different from anyone else. You're a human being with the same feelings, concerns, problems and dreams as everyone else. The only difference is you fall in love with the same sex. Well, women have been doing that since the beginning of time, so what's the big deal? The problem is other people won't let you just be you. They pry into your personal life and try to find out personal details they have no right to know.
There is no right time to come out but nevertheless it's the wrong time when someone forces it out of you. That's happened to me twice already. Once at university and, shortly afterwards, at a progressive synagogue. Both times it was a person who was head of something directly relevant to me. Both times I was annoyed that I was put into that position especially since both were men. And one who was apparently Jewish and gay and married to a man. He asked me who my "ideal man" is, there was a pause, then my mother looked at me and exclaimed - but you're gay, darling! To which I added, you, ie the man asking. He was confused and replied: but I'm gay and married! I said, exactly, a very gay-only man who isn't interested in women/me romantically or sexually because I'm a lesbian who isn't interested in any men. He didn't make any attempt to matchmake me with any gay women, he just lost interest in the conversation, which is odd given that he's supposed to be gay and in a leadership role for young adult socials and networking. Besides, matchmaking is something progressives claim they disapprove of orthodox Jews doing! And it clearly was a heterosexual matchmaking attempt because he only asked right after I saw him leave a social for several minutes to talk privately outside the event room to a guy who was trying to chat me up but was struggling badly. I had originally assumed he was gay because he said he had a boyfriend but then he apparently broke up with him and then claimed he didn't identify as gay because he doesn't like labels. Then he apparently suddenly had to move so needed a temporary place to stay, and was angling to move himself in with me and my mother. Not only was that generally out of the question, we barely knew him!
I was already 'out' so didn't see why I had to keep coming out time and time again, especially since I'd already told a female rabbi (and a gay guy who wanted to start an LGBT+ group at the synagogue but was unsuccessful) so why would a gay man assume I'm straight? Besides there were no gay women at this synagogue despite advertising themselves as gay friendly. That's statistically impossible over a couple of years or so. If there were gay men they tended to hold positions rather than be part of the congregation. Certainly my time was worse there once it became public knowledge I was a lesbian, including harassing me over my singing talent, despite it being hugely popular with the congregation who were beginning to ask questions as to why the synagogue wasn't making use of my musical ability and training and had just started to pressure the synagogue to employ me, for example, in their choir.
In the end you think to hell with it. I'm tired of judgemental heterosexuals who hold a superior than thou attitude towards homosexuals and gender non-conforming people (especially if genderfluid). The female rabbi that knew I'm a lesbian also knew I'm genderfluid/non-binary eg I wore a male tallit and kippah, enjoyed a special lesson given by a female rabbi on how to put on tefillin. This class was for anyone. I wasn't the only woman by a long way! I asked one of the female rabbis if I could wear a tallit katan (with the tzitzit out) to synagogue but she didn't like the thought of that and once she knew my mother and I were wearing male tallits (they're also the ones on sale in shops because the shops cater for orthodox Jews) and kippot she, and a few others, who worked at the synagogue became against it. The rabbi didn't mind feminine flimsy tallits as much but was hugely against the Women of the Wall tallit despite it obviously being a women's one, albeit a feminist one about religious gender equality. How ironic for a female rabbi working in progressive branches! Gender equality is supposed to be part of their approach.
So I do understand why Sarit might be reluctant to come out. She may have come across various problems and pressures she hasn't told us about which meant she didn't want to come out earlier fearing it would make things worse.
Then there's not just the fans to consider but also her agent, manager, record label and so on. And that's assuming her family are supportive. Families can be dreadful. Ian McKellen also stayed in the closet as long as possible. Although the theatre world knew he was gay.
In that sense Sarit is not unusual. And times are not that different. Universities in the 21st century should be relaxed about gay students but I was constantly harassed during my time attending one. It even affected my studies to the extent that I couldn't undertake a dissertation with a woman lecturer who had expertise on a 17th century lesbian philosopher, Margaret Cavendish. If that's not homophobia, what is? Cavendish is widely researched by other disciplines such as English Literature, so she's hardly risquรฉ. And why am I stuck with yet another male lecturer. My personal tutor was a man who couldn't possibly understand the experiences of a lesbian so was totally unsuitable and then I had a male supervisor for my dissertation in a field he's not an expert in.
However, the music world is also still lacking LGBT inclusivity. In the pop world it's marginally better than the classical world which still hasn't heard of gay people. Yet, gay people are often very creative and tend to go towards creative careers. So if, like in classical ballet, you keep weeding out gays you are losing a pool of talent and causing a great deal of unhappiness and harm through discrimination. Not that the academic world is any better!
It's high time we reached zero discrimination and allowed people to be who they are and be given opportunities to do what they love doing and are good at. We talk about levelling up but we never talk about levelling up between gay and straight people.
So good on Sarit for coming out, even if tentatively. I empathize and urge people to be supportive of her otherwise you are causing her suffering and it may also have the knock-on effect of discouraging others from coming out especially if they've waited a long time to do so and are already celebrities. Celebrities are human beings too. They're not immune to fears and concerns that we non-celebrities assume are normal.
I would also like to see an opening up of the musical world so that there's greater diversity, including gender diversity, lesbians, and gay men. The more diversity the more talent and general interest it generates. A gay cellist or singer doesn't play or sing differently from a straight cellist or singer. They play or sing differently only because every individual is different and brings a dimension to their playing or singing that gives them an unique voice.
Saturday, 15 October 2022
World Singing Day 2022
Happy #worldsingingday ! ๐๐๐๐๐ต๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ต๐๐ค๐♥️♥️♥️♥️
"I don't sing because I'm happy, I'm happy because I sing" — William James
This quote is from the philosopher (and early psychologist) William James. I like this quote because it's so true. People have been singing since the beginning of time, especially together when doing an activity, celebrating something, socializing generally and including liturgy at places of worship and school assemblies. Indeed, people sing together whenever, wherever, as we saw in Spain and Italy during lockdown when they sang folk songs together from their balconies - I found that very emotional, very touching. Here they clearly were not singing about being happy in lockdown (who would be!) but singing raised their spirits and made them happier, despite the situation. Long live song! ๐ต๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ต
For World Singing Day 2022 I've dropped a new track in my World Music playlist on SoundCloud. You can listen to it here.
It's the traditional Czech Folk song 'Cerne Oci, Jdete Spat' that my mother sang to me as a baby, from a few days old (I have a Czech background on my mother's side). I've sung it unaccompanied because, although it's a standard folk song, I've sung it in the style of a lullaby - mothers can't hold the baby and play an instrument at the same time! I chose it for today because mothers singing lullabies to their babies is probably the most fundamental form of singing which then evolved into folk songs and is common throughout the world irrespective of whether you think of western cultures or indigenous peoples and so on.
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Although I'm a British singer, I'm also Canadian (through my mother, and her family) so I have a special interest in Native American culture on that continent, in Canada, the USA and South America. I love Native American music (singing and instrumental) which I find very soulful, intuitive and emotional to listen to, whether it's on a CD or on YouTube. However, it's a genre of world music and singing that is mostly neglected and underappreciated, and the clips of music I've seen/heard for World Music Day 2022 have not included their voices. So I'm sharing a link so you can hear the ancestral singing and chanting of Native Americans here. Elsewhere on this YouTube channel, 'Ancestral Way Music', which is dedicated to providing us with indigenous ancestral music, you can hear many more examples, both singing and instrumental, of Native American music, as well as Indigenous music from other places around the world.
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Friday, 2 April 2021
Rusulka's 120th Premiere Anniversary this week
The opera Rusalka, written by Antonin Dvorak, is celebrating the 120th year anniversary of its world premiere, which took place on the 31st March 1901. So I thought I'd discuss the famous and most beautiful aria in it, namely, Song to the Moon, which is unusually written in 3/8 time. (Most arias are written in 3/4 or 2/4 time.) I wanted to record it because it was my Czech grandmother's favourite aria, so it has personal significance for me.
Learning Song to the Moon:
I have been learning this aria for a few years now, refining my approach to it. At first, I was using the sheet music I bought in Prague. Later I found an original copy of the opera, including this aria for voice and orchestra, and compared the two in case any later editing had taken place in my modern copy. So, before even beginning to thoroughly learn an aria or song, I have to go back and find the original score. This can take time and is laborious. The changes can be small e.g. glissandos or major such as a key signature change. And, of course, the composer and lyricist/librettist must have died 70 years ago and, hopefully, the family or publisher has not extended the time limit beyond 70 years, as is the case with Puccini.
Libretto:
The lyrics are especially important in Song to the Moon because the whole opera began in 1899 with only the libretto that Kvapil wrote which, in his memoirs he states, he based on the fairy tales of the famous Czech woman writer, Bozena Nemcova and the Czech poet, Erben. He was generally very inspired by Erben. Kvapil had trouble finding a composer for his libretto until Dvorak agreed to set Kvapil's liberetto to music in 1900. Dvorak shared Kvapil's interest in Erben and Slavic folklore and was so passionate about the concept for the opera, he wrote the music in a few months. When checking if an aria or song fits the 70 year rule it's important to check the librettist too. In this case, Kvapil didn't die until 1950, so this meant I had to wait until January last year to record it.
The Drama Behind the Aria and Character:
Rusalka is a water sprite based on Slavic mythology. This character informed my interpretation of the aria, as well as the structure of the score. I wanted to create the atmosphere of an unearthly sprite by bringing out the lighter phrases which require a narrow vibrato and vocal agility (not a slow, heavy operatic style using a wide vibrato and sliding between notes). This lighter operatic style, I think, becomes essential for staying in tempo and bringing out the folk music style, decorative notes and passages in the score, e.g. the quick triplets, octave jumps, tempo shifts and accidental notes. For me, this is especially important because I don't have an orchestra accompanying me. To sing in a typical operatic voice would ruin the atmosphere and distort the sound quality of my recording. So both my arrangements of the aria (a Cappella; wind instrument on keyboard) build on the simplicity of the folk legend and folk music setting/inspiration for the opera.
I always start by studying the character and role behind the arias. Hence, my first stage is to look at the role and character as an actress, before marking out the score e.g. key signature, breaths, noting semitones/octaves, phrasing, colouring, expression, sound, speed, notation, diction, and learning the aria as a singer.
Language of the Opera:
I sing the aria in its original language, Czech. Czech words have many consonants compared with Italian which tends to have more vowels. This impacts on singers and their technique. Singers usually prefer vowel-based languages when singing because it assists their mouth in making shapes that are conducive to projection and resonance. Hence, the tendency for operas to be sung in Italian.
Thus, it is important to know how to physically adjust to different languages to maintain good singing technique and protect your voice from injury. I have always sung in many languages since childhood, including languages I don't speak fluently eg Japanese. I was a small child when I would enjoy singing along to the Japanese section of John Denver's 'Flower that Shattered the Stone'. I learnt it off by heart phonetically and I have always been good at learning accents and pronunciation in foreign languages. So it was an easy step for me to become a multilingual singer. Nevertheless, having Czech roots and heritage means I've heard Czech all my life and I'm used to speaking it. So, luckily, I don't have the same linguistic hurdles with this aria as non-Czech singers. This is not surprising because Czech is a very difficult language. However, it comes naturally to me and I don't have pronunciation problems. Nevertheless, I went over the lyrics with my mother to get her opinion on whether I was expressing the Czech language authentically enough, complete with the right emphases and intonation.
Singing on One Note: Approaching the Climax of an Aria:
This occurs on the last page before the climax of the song and the glorious top B flat which you hold as long as possible but still ensuring you don't tail off at the end. You need enough puff to drive through the next 4 notes. The first 2 go down in tones to A flat followed by G flat. Then jumping down an octave for the final two notes. That's a very demanding finish to an aria!
The one note you sing on for 4 bars is D flat (or middle C sharp). Although usually sung, I decided to go for a semi-spoken, actress-style of singing these bars. My aim was to create a spooky/slightly sinister atmosphere. We are after all in the land of folk legend. Rusalka isn't a human being. It's easier for the listener to hear the words if they are articulated clearly in this way. It is also a way of signalling the climax to follow where Rusalka begs the moon not to stop shining otherwise her lover won't find his way back to her.
In my second version of this aria, which is on SoundCloud, I use the keyboard (ie my physical instrument, not a computerized digital imitation) at this point to create an eerie quality to the overall ambience. The keyboard stays in the background as the music reaches its climax symbolised by the top B flat.
My first version is on my YouTube channel and is recorded a Capella in a recital style because I can be both heard and seen:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MxITgvwOrGE
Therefore, it's slightly more formal than the SoundCloud version which is only for listeners which is why I felt the need for a more atmospheric ambience hence, the keyboard:
Recording Song to the Moon:
Both recordings were done as a completely live performance: in one take, without any technical mastering to polish it up. I wanted to give the listener the same experience, as far as possible, of a raw, intimate, stripped-back style. This quiet, innovative, mininal accompaniment style of arranging songs is more common in pop/rock/indie music than it is in classical music but I've cross-applied it to arias and like the musical effect it creates. It produces the atmosphere of an intimate concert or small, private gig, where the listener is meant to feel like I am singing just to them, as though I'm standing in their lounge. This style is particularly suited to this aria where Rusalka is the only one on stage, the moon is shining, and she misses her true love. It's poignant, sad, haunting yet lyrical.
Producing:
As the producer of my album, this is a recording style I consciously adopted and sought to create throughout the album. It influenced everything from arrangements, vocal performance, instrument choices to the technical side of the recording approach which leaves everything in a simplistic style. I want the listener to believe I am Rusalka and hear my innermost thoughts, feelings and fears.
I did not do any mastering of the tracks in the making of this aria, or the other tracks, which can be heard on both my pop and classical albums. I took the production side of my music and recordings somewhat for granted, seeing it as mostly just a necessity. It was only last month when attending an online music event held by SoundCloud that I learnt how so few women (and non-binary people) produce music. And out of those who do, even less see themselves as, or call themselves, music producers. It was then that I suddenly realised I am one of these women who is wearing the hat of a music producer but without perceiving myself as one or acknowledging that side of my musical journey, process and practice.
The women and non-binary speakers were inspiring and encouraging. They wanted to empower us to own and appreciate what we do! It was an eye opener, and has really helped me to analyse the process I undertake and be more aware of all the different, distinctive hats I'm wearing when I record my music! No wonder it can be quite an exhausting process!
Wednesday, 3 March 2021
Starting out
I Studied All Night on Shavuot (lyrics)
While looking through my email sent box, I found my emails in 2015 to a Rabbi who was organising a singing/lyrics writing event. In one of t...
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This blog is a sister music blog to my cello blog, avaliable at: https://mycelloandi.blogspot.com/?m=1 Between them, I journal about myself...
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This post is about Sarit Hadad, a famous Israeli female singer who has only recently come out as a lesbian in 2021. ๐ณ️๐ Most of her fans ...
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The opera Rusalka, written by Antonin Dvorak, is celebrating the 120th year anniversary of its world premiere, which took place on the 31st ...

